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the shelf.day 5 hair routine · eczema-prone skin · chores for teens
@heykayandcoca · blended family · think logically · good hair & skinThis isn't a store. It's my bathroom counter and the junk drawer, with links.
Feel whatever you feel. Then check.
the part
day 3
the lineupThree rules for this page. I paid for it. I still use it. I'd buy it again. If it fails one, it's not here.
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▶ The full-length videoslogical fallacies, day 5 hair, and how we run our house YouTube →free.a one-page chore guide for kids and teens
free · no emailhair.the day 5 hair routine for long, dry, thinning hair
why these?Long, dark, dry, breaking ends. In 2024 I changed one thing: the routine. The 2020 photo is the before. The receipts are at the bottom. Look at those first, then decide.
if you only buy one thingThe oil.Ends most days. Scalp the night before wash day. A drop in my moisturizer. Everything else on this page is built around this bottle. shop this ↗ my full review →
Why this brand. Yes, that one.
It's Monat. I know what you've heard. I'd heard it too, which is why I used it for four years before I'd put my name next to it.
I'm not here for the company. I'm here because my hair is the receipt, and it's in the photos below. Same three rules as everything on this page: I paid for it, I still use it, I'd buy it again. If a drugstore bottle did this, the drugstore bottle would be here instead.
Don't take my word for it. Scroll to the photos, then decide.
Not in the US? Monat ships to all 18 of these. Prices show in USD; tap the flag at the top right of the shop to switch.
show me where the flag is
Thinning or shedding
Two products. Scalp only. Nothing on the lengths.
The whole story: thin, breaking ends →
IR Clinical™ Hair Thinning Defense SerumI've been using it on my part twice a day since late September, alongside Bond IQ, and I love it. My hairline looks fuller to me. My results, not a promise.shop this ↗
REJUVENIQE® Oil IntensiveThe one everything else is built around. Ends most days, scalp before wash day, a drop in my moisturizer at night. One bottle, a lot of jobs.shop this ↗
my full review →
Dry, damaged hair
Wash day, in this order. Skip a step and you'll know by Wednesday.
Bond IQ™ Fortifying ShampooWash day starts here. My dry hair drinks it.shop this ↗
Bond IQ™ Fortifying ConditionerThe pair to the shampoo. I don't skip it.shop this ↗
Bond IQ™ Peptide Therapy Leave-In CrèmeDamp hair, every wash, before any heat touches it. Dry-ends insurance.shop this ↗
REJUVABEADS® Split End MenderEnds only. It doesn't undo a split, it hides it until your next trim, which is all any of these do.shop this ↗
Day two and styling
None of this fixes anything. It buys days. That's the honest job description.
What didn't make it: the dry shampoo that gave me a rash →
Studio One™ Heat Protectant SprayIf a hot tool is coming, this goes on first. No exceptions.shop this ↗
Studio One™ Flex Control HairsprayHold that still moves. No crunch.shop this ↗
Studio One™ Dry Texturizing SprayDay-two hair's best friend. Volume without washing.shop this ↗
Studio One™ The Champ™ Conditioning Dry ShampooBuys me a day. Two, honestly.shop this ↗
glossmode
Gloss Mode™ Glow DropsnewI don't get excited about products. I'm excited about this one. Shine on dry ends, zero grease, day 3 looks like day 1.shop this ↗
my full review →
The fine print, because you'd find it anyway
- VIP: $10 to sign up. Once. You get a $20 coupon back for your next order.
- VIP pricing is about 15 to 20% under retail. Both prices show on every product page.
- Your first order has to be $84 or more.
- You set up one more order for later. They call it a Flexship. Also $84+.
- You pick what's in it and when it ships, every 30 or 60 days.
- Move it, pause it, or cancel it yourself from your account. No phone call.
- 30 days to return anything.
- Don't want VIP? Buy retail. Same link, skip the sign-up.
- The long version, with the math: is VIP worth it?
Receipts
Same hair. Three dates. Same lighting, roughly. I'm not asking you to believe me, I'm asking you to look.
My results: Monat products since February 2024, Bond IQ shampoo and conditioner about twice a week for about a year, REJUVENIQE oil, the split-end mender and the leave-in. No filters, no edits.
Not sure which three to start with?DM me HEYKAY on Instagram. Tell me your hair type and what's bugging you, I'll build the cart. No pitch, just the list. open instagram
skin.skincare for eczema-prone, reactive skin
eczema-proneThree steps. Not a treatment. I'm not a doctor and I won't play one in a caption. It's what my reactive skin stopped yelling about.
Same shop, same 18 countries as the hair stuff. Flags up top →
REJUVENIQE® Oil IntensiveSame bottle as the hair section. One drop before the skin tint. That's where the glow comes from. I don't own highlighter.shop this ↗
Barrier Booster™ Ceramide Infusion TonerOut of stock as I write this, which tells you something. The link works when it's back.shop this ↗
Barrier Booster™ Niacinamide Glow SerumGentle enough that my reactive skin lets me use it daily.shop this ↗
Barrier Booster™ Barrier Defense MoisturizerThe last step, every time. A blanket for dry skin.shop this ↗
face.skin tint and minimal makeup for sensitive skin
makeupOil first, then this. Five things, no highlighter, no filter. Eczema-prone skin, 36, pores and all. That's on purpose.
skintint
Modern Glow™ Skin TintSkincare and makeup in one. Light coverage that still looks like skin. I wear ivory.shop this ↗
bright& correct
Brighten & Correct ConcealerUnder the eyes only. Nowhere else. Very light.shop this ↗
browgel
Clear Brow GelBrushes them up, holds, doesn't flake. Done in ten seconds.shop this ↗
loosepowder
Translucent Loose PowderOnly where I need it. The glow stays, the shine on my nose doesn't.shop this ↗
mascara
MascaraGave it more than a day and now I won't use anything else. Length and volume without the crunch.shop this ↗
the boys.what we use raising teen boys in a blended family
amazon · 12 & 14For the part of raising boys where they feel everything and say nothing. We bought these, they're still out, they still get used.
The card game that gets a 14-year-old talking at dinner.52 Essential Conversations · Mind Brain Parenting amazon 📓
Big feelings, in a workbook my 12-year-old actually opened.DBT Skills Workbook for Kids, 8–12 amazon 🫧
Something to squeeze that isn't a brother.Serenilite stress ball set, soft / medium / hard amazon
the house.cleaning stuff that survived two teenagers
cleaning, mostlyI buy a stupid amount of cleaning stuff. This is the short list that survived two teenagers and got rebought.
Mops and vacuums at the same time. Sunday reset takes half as long.Tineco Floor ONE S3 wet-dry vacuum (renewed, because full price is silly) amazon 🧤
Long enough that the sink water doesn't win.ThxToms 17" lined dish gloves, 2 pairs amazon 💨
Runs 60 hours. I forget it exists, which is the point.Levoit 6L top-fill humidifier amazon 🪷
The one thing in the house that's just for me.Waterfall backflow incense burner, 100 cones included amazon ✏️
The only pen I use. There's one in every room.Pilot FriXion erasable gel pens, extra fine 0.5 mm, 5 colors. Lists, the planner, the chore chart, the boys' homework, all of it. The one "but": erasable ink can fade over time, so anything that needs to last, like a signature, gets a regular pen. walmart
wearing.what I've got on in the videos
plain linksPeople ask in DMs, so here. Same rules: I paid for it, I wear it, I'd buy it again. Nothing on this list pays me yet.
The zip-up I'm wearing in almost every video. And most days off camera.No Boundaries boxy oversized fleece zip hoodie. It's from the men's section on purpose: longer, roomier, softer. The tie-dye one in the day 5 video is this. walmart 👻
The ghost sweatshirt from "what's the point of day 5 hair."Ghost Frame women's Halloween crew. Cream, soft, fits like a regular sweatshirt, and I'm not putting it away in November. walmart
books.
amazonThe ones behind the videos. Read them before you argue with me in the comments.
questions.the ones I get in DMs
faqWhat is day 5 hair?
- Hair that still looks washed on the fifth day after wash day. For long, dark, dry hair that's a bonding shampoo and conditioner, a leave-in on damp hair, oil on the ends, and dry shampoo on days three and four. The photos are up in the hair section.
Which one do I start with for thinning?
- Two products, scalp only: the thinning defense serum twice a day and the oil on the scalp the night before wash day. I've been using the serum on my part twice a day since late September, alongside Bond IQ, and I love it.
Can I use the hair oil on my face?
- I do. One drop before the skin tint. That's where the glow comes from, not highlighter. Eczema-prone skin, no filter. It's a cosmetic, not a treatment.
Do I have to sign up for VIP to buy?
- No. Every link works as a regular retail purchase. VIP is optional and you move, pause, or cancel it from your own account. 30-day returns. The full fine print is here.
Do you ship outside the US?
- 18 countries. The flags are up in the hair section. Tap the flag at the top right of the shop to switch.
Is the chore guide really free?
- Yes. One page, no email box. The real list for a 12 and 14 year old, what earns, the reward menu, and a little-kid version.